I was at Casa By The Sea for 11 months and during that time I was deprived food got food poisoning twice. I was tortured I had to lay naked well almost I got to keep my briefs on but it was on a cold tile floor in a postition that I can nolonger even get into I had to lay there with my chin ground into the grout in the tile floor bleeding with my hands behind my back touthching my elbows and my feet crossed in the air for 72 hours.
This happend on numerous occasions I have a disease in my knees called ausgoodslughter disease and for day to day punishment I would have to sit in a little cube with my knees toutching the wall allong with my forehead indian style for hours at a time I still have problems walking because of this. I was assaulted on more than one occasion by the staff kicked in the face was the worst.
It was just a bad place and I am thankfull the Mexican government shut it down It was abusive and just plain torment everyday I have communication issues and hold myself to a standard that is unachievable I have PTSD from there and anyone that went there at the time pre that says it helped them has stockholm syndrom It was torture and they threatned that I was going to get sent to High Impact so when waasps says they had no affiliation with that program I am a testimate to the lies and misconduct that cost my parents over 11 thousand dollars I hate to cut this off but my wife is demanding we go to the store.
While there we I say we because I was there with hundreds of other boys who all experienced the same conditions daily were denied communication with the outside world, including friends and family. The letters we were allowed to send and receive were censored. We were often denied adequate nutrition. We were punished with both verbal and physical abuse on a daily basis. I was locked in a box with my hands and feet tied behind my back for days at a time and denied access to food or a restroom.
While in confinement I was made to eat meager portions of rice off of the floor like a dog. This was a common form of punishment that happened to many and often. The attack therapy from these seminars was often used in day to day family meetings, so the verbal and psychological abuse was near constant.
We were denied all privacy for the length of our stay. We were not told how long we would be held against our will. We were denied access to reporting abuse to a third party. We were denied medical care. I developed hemorrhoids at 13 from being made to carry large bags of rice and sand on my back and received no medical treatment or lightning of workload.
I had my rib cracked and received no medical treatment. I severely injured my wrist and received no treatment. I had severe pink eye at one point and was told to rinse my eyes with salt water from the ocean.
All of us were constantly plagued by scabies, ringworm, and large boils. We were denied hot water and adequate access to hygiene. I could continue writing, practically ad nauseam, cataloguing abuses we suffered, but you get the picture. I have not mentioned the vast sums of money parents are charged to send their kids to these places, or the incredible lengths the program will go to to convince desperate and vulnerable parents that these places are right for their child.
Their lying, manipulating, and making false claims about the medical legitimacy read: absolutely none of their programs is well documented in books like American Gulag and Help At Any Cost. Books which the producers at Dr. Phil should have read if they are at all serious about addressing this topic with any integrity. The fact that these conditions, worse than those of people on death row, are tolerated for American teenagers is completely unconscionable.
The fact that Dr. Phil has recommended Tough Love programs in the past should weigh on the conscious of every producer and in fact wage earner on the show, right down to the make-up lady and the guy who sweeps up after, but especially Mr.
Phil Mcgraw Ph. This is your chance to do something about it. Make sure that your show denounces these places for what they are — profit-mongering, child abusing, torture camps.
Thank You for your submission Jennifer, Your application has been recommended. Jennifer H. The hardest thing is that I was sent there I believe because my parents were just done with, I was adopted at age 3 and I just became a nuisance to my parents.
My brother was also really sick and died a few weeks before I left to Casa. The day after his funeral the escorts picked me up and took me to Casa, was just a crazy experience. I am so glad that they are shedding light on this now, my parents still believe it was the best thing for me and it drives me crazy.
Thank you for your submission Mandy, Your application has been recommended. Mandy C. I think that the public needs to see that. Hope this helps. Thank you for your submission Brittany, Your application has been recommended. Brittany P. I was sent to Dimond ranch academy in , I am from canada , my parents took me to vegas , and told me we were going to look at a rehab as I asked for help with my drug problem.
I tried to run away and was attacked by a pound women. Homeless is the first level and they treat us like inmates. Telling us. Were all there because we deserve to be. I go on for days this place was pure torture. Any thoughts on your behavior that got your parents so riled up that they thought this was the solution? Does it matter? If not, then why do parents even have the right to make these decisions in the first place?
Seems to me that parents, in this cacse, did not know best. Thank you for your submission Collin, Your application has been recommended. Collin O. I was sent to Diamond Ranch Academy, as seen on the Dr. Drew show, and witnessed many teens suffer under the program. Parents were misled, kids brainwashed into compliance, some beaten restrained , and lives changed for the worse. Most, understandably, turn to troubled teen programs as a last attempt. Unfortunately, the teens come out worse, more often than not.
The lucky ones avoid physical pain, while the emotional pain is inevitable. The saddest is when young teens are sent for very minor problems that could more than likely be solved by some outpatient therapy sessions. Upon release, they face much more angry and unmanageable after being exposed to things they otherwise would not have. I have seen this first-hand multiple times.
A tragedy. Brittany T. I was 14 when I came into the program and left shortly after I turned Where are good options? Govt and schools make it very difficult to parent tough children and leave us little option. So your best option is private teen gulags with long track records of abuse? Yeah, way to find a real solution! Thank you for your submission Daniel, Your application has been recommended. Daniel W. I was in Casa by the Sea for 23 months.
I went in when I was 15 and came out when I was I kept a detailed journal the whole time I was housed at this facility. I believe that I possess some very detailed examples of how poorly this place was run. I was injured playing basketball and broke my knee in two places. The medical care here was almost non existent. I saw several instances of abuse, both mental and physical. Please contact me if you are interested in hearing my story. I was pulled from Case two years prior to them being shutdown for child abuse and lack of proper medical treatment.
Thank you. I was imprisoned at Casa by the sea from through I was there for 26 months. I was going through my rebellious teenage stage, where I struggled with depression and had only just a few close friends that my parents did not approve of. I also felt like my parents were trying to turn me into what they wanted me to be, not what I wanted me to be. Thank you for your submission Cheri, Your application has been recommended.
May he rest in peace. Cheri S. In this method, the child is told that drinking and drug use are simply unacceptable, and then pre-chosen treatment options are immediately presented for the child.
If he or she refuses to comply, then he or she will be asked to leave the home. Parents were told to stand firm to this model no matter what, and encourage their children to explore the negative consequences of noncompliance. The thinking behind this model is that parents are in control of the household, while the child is in control of his or her own behavior.
When faced with that choice, the thinking went, the child would pick sobriety. Therapists began to apply this approach with adults as well as children and, over time, the tough love approach has been softened and refined. Aspects of tough love are now often included in intervention programs. Then, the family holds a meeting with the addicted person, and the family confronts their loved one about the behavior while providing treatment solutions.
The consequences of not choosing recovery can vary depending on the level of the addiction and the damage it is causing to the family. Some intervention specialists see tough love as a way to persuade the addicted person. They may ask family members to write consequences down and avoid sharing those consequences during the intervention.
If the addicted person refuses recovery help, the intervention specialist can share the consequences and hopefully provide enough of a shock to keep the addict on the proper path.
Other intervention specialists consider the tough love approach a method to protect the family from further pain. If the addicted person refuses to change, the family must move on without that person. This may be particularly helpful if the addicted person is abusive, impulsive, or liable to threaten the health and safety of the family members.
Not all interventions require this level of consequence. Hopefully, all addicted people will realize that they matter and that their actions can impact the people they love. There is not a set clinical definition of this approach. It is important to learn more about addiction and addiction treatment before you begin any approach to treatment. Addiction is defined as a chronic brain disease that changes the way that the brain functions at a molecular level.
Addiction behavior touches the motivation, reward, and memory centers of the brain. There is a genetic component to addiction, and often, more than one family member will struggle with addiction at the same time.
Addiction does cause people to make bad decisions. It can lead to a spiral of unhealthy, embarrassing, or dangerous behavior followed by guilt and shame. However, people who struggle with addiction are not bad people. If anger and resentment have blocked your ability to interact with your loved one, you may want to consider counseling for yourself and your family. Some unresolved anger and issues may prevent your intervention from being as successful as possible.
Fortunately, with the right help, you can recover as a family. With time and distance, healing can occur. Tough love is a very painful and stressful avenue, but in many families, very necessary and very rewarding.
Tough love , if used correctly, can be helpful. However, if you are the type to give in at the end, all the hard work of standing your ground will be for nothing.
Actually, your weakness or giving in could result in deeper and more serious problems. Please confer with professionals or outside help if you feel you are not able to follow through with what you are telling your child you will do. Tough Love Tough love: When loving your teen can actually do more harm than good.
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